reBar FAQ 


Do I Have To Be Jewish To reBar?

Of course not. Many of the key issues in the conversation about coming-of-age ceremonies and their meaning today are universal. It’s true that the reBar questions emerge from a Jewish perspective and are focused on the Jewish Bar/Bat Mitzvah experience, but we welcome the opportunity to learn from other faiths, traditions and cultures with coming-of-age and rites-of-passage rituals.

I’m not Jewish but interested in reBar. Can you explain in more detail the Bar/Bat Mitzvah concept?

In Judaism, boys reach religious maturity at the age of thirteen and become a bar mitzvah ("bar mitzvah" means "son of the commandment"). Girls mature earlier, and become a bat mitzvah ("bat mitvzah" means "daughter of the commandment”) at twelve. The new men and women are looked upon as adults and are expected to uphold the Jewish commandments and laws. Source:

How Do I reBar?

Download the DIY guide found on the DIY page for tips and ideas for how to reBar solo, with your family, friends and community.

Can I create my own reBar event?

Yes! And we’d love to post it on our communal calendar. Check out our DIY guide for event ideas and connect with Reboot’s Marketing & Outreach Coordinator Dina Mann to brainstorm further.

I submitted my reBar but don’t see it published on the site?

Thank you for your submission. reBar is a curated site and all submissions are reviewed by an editorial team. reBar essays are added in an ongoing way --- yours may be added soon!

Does it cost anything to participate in reBar?
No! reBar is completely free.

Will you distribute my email to anyone else?
No, we will only use it to contact you about reBar and other Reboot projects.